- Kristin Beck… Who is she? Do we need to have a definition?
50% of Transgenders commit suicide
When a person decides to come out, whether it be gay, lesbian, trans, etc. the first thing most people see in their mind is the sexuality. They don’t see the struggle the person has gone through. They don’t see the feelings they have been carrying around like cement bricks, wondering why they don’t seem to fit in. They don’t see the courage it took to finally say it out loud and unfortunately, they don’t get the unconditional love that they were under the impression of, that their family, would always be there. We don’t get to choose who are kids are meant to be nor do we get to pick who are parents are and what their terms are to qualify for unconditional love.
Think about an adult. Someone who has lived their whole life pretending to be someone they are not. Think about the inner turmoil they have been keeping inside over the years. Imagine them finally getting so tired of living life to meet everyone else’ expectations, that they finally put themselves first. Now see that person watching as most of the people/family closest to them walk away. It’s tragic, heartbreaking and unfair. It’s not supposed to be a bad thing. It’s not a choice. Now imagine if they had the ability to do this when they were a child. I can.
There are people trying to make a difference. This is Kristin Beck
I love documentaries. It is one of my favorite past times. Am I political? When it comes to that and religion I keep my mouth shut. The conversation always seems to end bad. Kristin Beck enlightened me in a way I wasn’t expecting. I wanted to find out about her background. She is transgender who has thrown her hat into the ring. I couldn’t avoid it. She suckered me into politics.
If you ask her to define herself, she will tell you American. To her it is about your soul and your spirit. Nothing else needs to be defined. Kristin was a Navy SEAL for 20 years. She served 13 deployments. She received a purple heart and bronze star. She was, to others (aside from being a he), brave and fearless. He was willing to go into situations that no one would go into. They saw him as a leader, an extraordinary American. In reality, she was so tortured and unhappy on the inside that she really didn’t care if she died. She wasn’t only fighting on the outside, she had a bigger battle going on inside. Once retired, around 2011, she decided to come out. She had started transitioning and really deserved, for all she did, to be happy.
It seemed to me (in the documentary) that the Navy SEAL background did cause straight men to be more accepting. She is a “man’s man”. There really isn’t anything ‘girly’ about her. This is one of the reasons I found her interesting. She didn’t try to mold herself into what a stereotypical woman should look like or act like. Kristin Beck didn’t become anything but more at peace with who she is and who she is, according to her, is an American. As an American and former Navy SEAL, when she sees something she can make better, there is no cowering. She jumps in. That is what she is doing! She has thrown herself into the ring for the next election in Maryland. I love this! She can show the “judgmentals” out there to stop focusing on the transgender stuff and focus on what she is doing and she knows what she’s doing. She is very clear on what she would like to change and improvements that need to be put in place. Kristin has the confidence, maybe from being a Navy SEAL, to not just talk about what she can do and stands for, she will do it. She would be the first transgender in congress. Imagine that!
- PHAG… Pretty Hot And Gay! Taking the negative power away
Azealia Banks sure knows how to stir the pot, although due to her difficult upbringing it really isn’t surprising that she would go back to what worked in 2013, instead of coming up with something new. She isn’t completely void though. She does set the timing when she needs it most. She just released an album a few months ago and I’m assuming it isn’t do as well in sales as she hoped. What do you do? Throw the word “faggot” out there again and get everyone in a tizzy. It just sucks that people fall for it.Lets take a look at her and her life. It really isn’t surprising that she immediately goes to slang that pisses the masses off. I’m sure she doesn’t even think about it before it spills out of her mouth. It’s the only way she knows how to fight. She’s like a wild animal in a cage that wants out desperately and wants to be accepted but as soon as she thinks someone is coming after her or trying to hurt her, she just reacts. She says all the worst, offensive words she can come up with. She wants to hurt them anyway she can. Her dad died when she was 2 and her mother was abusive. She likes much older men and guess what, they were abusive as well. She acknowledges she is bisexual and calls herself a dyke. You don’t have to be a genius to see what’s going on. I want to say she is “ignorant”, textbook definition. Some of these words she uses that get everyone riled up, she uses in reference to herself. I don’t think she really does see these words as offensive but has learned through life they are the way to get attention. Don’t get me wrong! I am not making excuses for her but when angry she also tells people she is going to kill them. Who says that and admits it to the world? I am just saying,”Look at the messenger and smack yourself for even thinking about it”.
A great way to deflect is to turn it around. As cheesy as it sounds, “Turn a negative into a positive”. This is where PHAG came about. PHAG stands for Pretty, Hot And Gay. Offensive? Not at all. I have to thank my hairdresser who is one part of an amazing married couple, that are set to change people’s lives in a healthy and positive. Brandon Liberati and Craig Ramsay. We all want to shake people up one way or another, in an effort to give them a clue. I hate stereotyping. Brandon wants everyone to see the beauty that they have and Craig wants them to feel the best they can by doing it in a healthy way. Their goal,”FIT & PHAB” Write that down. In 2016 it will be everywhere and you can say you already know all about it.
My rule for life is “Assume it is coming from a good place unless they have given you a reason not to”. This is why I can call my girlfriends hooker, slut, bitch, whatever. This is why when Brandon asked if he refers to me as one of his straights, does that offend me? Absolutely not! I adore him and I know he adores me. I guess this means I don’t agree with Andy Cohen (sorry Andy) but life is full of so much shit and crap and serious problems. Letting yourself get bothered by that phrase, from women you promote, if you find it offensive I think it has to do more with the women than the words. To quote Taylor Swift, “Shake it Off”.
So right now, I am wearing my “I Love PHAGS” shirt proudly. I know it may offend some, make some laugh, whatever, but the reality is, I wear what I want. I have 2 kids with disabilities and not enough wine in my cabinet, so if you are angry about it, I really don’t give a shit. No one else in the world is dressing to please me and if they are, they are followers. They aren’t the people who are going to wish the best for you, be supportive of you, stand by you and up for you. They will just follow the masses and to quote Laurel Thatcher Ulrich (I know others have said it as well but she is documented as the first I believe), “Well-behaved women seldom make history”, so call me naughty, I would rather make a difference.
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- Stereotypes can suck my $#^K!
Stereotyping will get you a sandwich!
I am surrounded by morons.
I tried to cling to the hope that not every man is an asshole. I really do! But then, sometimes even after years pass, I discover something and bam! I am kicked in the stomach. I always hoped that, like me, there was a different type of man out there. Perhaps a little quirky but more intelligent than the rest. Someone who didn’t sterotype. Was strong enough to have his own beliefs and stuck with them no matter what society said. I mean, they do that with religion, why not women? Why can’t there be any man out there bright enough to look at a scantily clad woman and say, “oh! she has a rockin body and she totally owns it” instead of assuming she’s a slut (man! I hate that word!) or a woman with chipped nail polish and instead of thinking, “look at those nails, she doesn’t take very good care of herself or that looks trashy”, why can’t they think, “I’m sure she is so busy working or raising her kids that she hasn’t had time for herself. What an amazing woman”. Am I delusional in hoping that there is a surprise out there, waiting to be discovered?
I want men to listen very closely to me right now and some (unfortunately more than I would like) women. I can dress slutty if I want. It doesn’t mean I’m a slut. It means I like provocative clothes and I like to feel sexy. I can sleep with you on our first date if I want. It doesn’t mean I am easy. It means either I want to have sex because you know, women actually like sex! or I am pretty wasted and you will do. You do not have some incredibly charming and persuasive personality that has taken over my brain. You aren’t Mr. Hot Sex Man. You were at the right place, at the right time and maybe you said the right thing. I am trying you out. You are a pair of heels. If you look good but I know that I won’t be able to wear you for hours and days, then maybe you will be my booty call. If you look good and feel good then I probably would like to go on another date with you but if you feel like shit and look like every other type of heel out there, ya.. I’m not keeping you. I don’t need a receipt to return you. I am dropping you off outside the front door of the store and I don’t even care about getting my money back. That’s pretty much how it is and if you make the mistake of stereotyping, well then you are missing out. Someone who judges, stereotypes, lives a very sheltered life. There will be no excitement, a lot of boredom and less people around you because you sound like such an asshole. People like that make no difference in the world.
Think about all those stupid, ridiculous assumptions we make! I can’t even count how many times a man (never a woman) has said that because I have short hair I must be a lesbian. That is when I want to say well let me take a look at your feet, then a spin on the dance floor because I’m sure if you can’t dance, you suck in bed. They are as stupid as they sound. Just because I have a pole in my living room, it doesn’t mean I am a stripper. If I was I wouldn’t need to be working my ass off on this site trying to make money. In addition, if a girl has a booty call, it does not mean she is stupid or useless or a nobody. It means she likes good sex but she knows she would kill you if she had to deal with you regularly. The great thing with booty calls also is that we really don’t worry about those ridiculous things that girls, at the beginning of a relationship worry about. I am not going to sit by the phone in a panic wondering when you will call, whether your voice sounds weird and if you sound like you still like me. I am not going to cry all night if I don’t hear from you. I am not going to call and hang up on you over and over or call and yell at you. I am not going to make an ass of myself when you “break my heart”. I am not going to blame myself if it doesn’t work out. I have a life. Sounds like a pretty good deal doesn’t it? Sounds like I am a pretty smart woman who knows what I want, right? Ya. A woman like this is not someone you can treat like trash. Actually, NO women is someone who should ever be treated like trash.
Women are not easy to figure out and that we don’t all act the same way. These days, women are getting stronger and stronger. The heels are getting higher and we are walking tall and proud. I would not think twice about kicking an idiot guy in the ass with them for judging me and who I am. My only fear these days is that it would be something they are sexually into. I just want some of you to surprise us? Not only with words but with actions and reactions. Is that too much to ask?
Never assume!
- Myth #6: Machismo is Sexy-Hot
Machismo.. Doesn’t that word just scream gold chain, hairy chest, the scent of Old Spice, white socks worn with sandals, speeding by you in an Iroc? Pretty hot huh?
NOT! It also screams arrogance to me and I hate arrogance. It also screams bushy hair to me and I’m not sure why but that leaves a bad taste in my mouth 
It does! There is nothing work than gagging on a leftover hair or finding one stuck in your teeth. I beg all you mean out there. Keep that shit pretty. Manscaping is a must. I don’t want to have to wear a searchlight while I’m down there trying to find the prize in the cereal box, ya know?! The prize, when you have to dig for it ends up being some stupid arm tattoo or cheap ass plastic toy. And not the kind of toys I like! The boring toys. The shitty toys. Speaking of which, trim around there too if you don’t mind. For myself I can’t seem to decide. I feel like changing it up. Do I go with the bathmat? Linoleum? Or the shag rug? What do guys find hottest? A little while back a friend of mine found a grey hair down there. I was like, “Do you think that means you’re old or it’s old?” I told her to shave it all off. That would suck.I learned a few things this month. I learned that they really don’t want you to go to jail. They would much rather you do anything else. Just saying you want to doesn’t cut it. I guess that will have to be taken off my bucket list.
Pills and Alcohol Mix Well
I also learned that not all pills mix well with alcohol. I will leave it at that.
I found a car shop where I can get a great deal on service and not get screwed over. Thank you DVP Automotive!
You know how I will try anything once? Well I went to an AA meeting. Wow! What a crowd! Some so sad..but free coffee and cookies. I couldn’t relate to anybody and their stories but I wanted to really make the most of it so I kept volunteering to read.
Getting to Experience Naughty Nancy
The funnest night this month I had was getting to experience Naughty Nancy (she is on YouTube). She is an awesome character. I love dirty girls and she’s got some big balls on her. Speaking of which, I read in Cosmo that if a guy has big balls it means he has higher testosterone and is more likely to cheat. What do you think about that? I was involved with one guy and his wear like huge..not like gross Cisco Adler huge but still qualified as carry on luggage as far as I was concerned. He cheated. Coincidence? Those things reminded me of the game we used to play when I was younger. That game that us poor people played. Remember getting a long sock and putting a ball in the bottom and swinging it around? Banging it against the wall and it always bounced back to you. Even toss over and under the shoulder! Yep..Are you getting a visual on that? Oh yeah back to Nancy. I went to her show at the Loft in LA, and laughed my ass off! My favorite joke of the night…”Ever notice how the word We spelled backwards is Ew?” They do this comedy night the last Friday of every month and she is the host. I am definitely going to the next one on March 30. I also love that she wore a pair of my boyshorts for the whole show! Oh Ya! and there’s beer! It’s super cheap to get in too! They even let me set up a little shrine for myself.
Donate To Me
I’ve decided I am going to start putting a donate button on each page from now on. Donate? Donate to what? Umm..ME! Wine adds up! And peppermint peckers! And fun toys! And pepper jack cheese (I have to have it with my Big Kahuna Shiraz)! And beer! Oh ya and the kids, rent, food, etc. Who knows maybe someone will be wasted and go for it. I got nothing to lose right? And if you really think about it, it would be like help with Insane Asylum Prevention. That is for sure! Now where is my cheese???
LOOK! I made my own QR Code!
- Shipping Men With Small Penises To China | Improves Self Esteem
I have been sitting here trying to figure out a ‘J’ word to go with January. It’s really pissing me off. I have already used jack offs (although I do have a neverending list of stories under that catagory). I thought about “Juggs” or “Jauggernaughts” then I realized I’m not so sure how to spell that so I really shouldn’t try to write about it and the “Juggs” was just to draw people in. Since I already have pics of those then what really would be the point so…How about “Jollies” but that sounded stupid so right now I am just at January…January and ‘f’ the rest of you who expect more. It’s all I got and my brain is still on holiday. Of course this whole holiday thing is a bit confusing anyways over New Years Day being the first but the second things are closed so I am just on shut down all week. Any information can just be forwarded to my answering machine. In addition to the above, my mother is in town visiting and so far both of us are alive so I am being very careful about monitoring my stress levels (pill intake). I was having my usual wine and cheese combo but the “You are an alcoholic looks” were starting to get to be too much so I threw pills into the mix. Makes it all feel less judgmental or maybe makes me care less…either way it works. While all of this has been going on I have decided to try and make a big impact on society as a whole.Small Penis Size and Low Self Esteem
Alot of thought (and wine) has been put into it but I felt it was time to “give back” in a cause that dearly touches my heart. SO this is what I am thinking..Okay, so you know how I am anti “little penis” (nothing personal), well I am thinking we get all of those men together and ship them to China. Why China? I don’t know. Why not? If the rumors are correct than this could be great for their self-esteem. Eventually as time goes on and pro-creation, we could end up eliminating the little pecker people all together and if all goes according to plan, based on my own research with other gfs, we may help cut back on the over population problem across the water as well. Genius? I KNOW! Completely! I can literally change the world..make an impact…inspire vaginas all around the world! Renew their hope in the future and all it can bring! Double AAs move over! There is a new plan in town!
A tad over the top but isn’t that what the American Dream is all about?
Time for another bottle
I took one of those Academy classes and asked about the jail question. AGAIN I got the confused looks! What is up with these people?! The class was fine except they ask you to tell what happened to you and of course after they hear mine they are like, wtf? Everybody had the whole “cops are assholes” catch in their story and I believed all of them. Even the instructor was like, “Yep..they do that shit all the time”. The only one that actually grabbed my attention was the one who was like, ” I don’t remember a thing. I woke up and they told me I got a DUI”. I was actually listening at that point. This lasted only a minute. It kind of is just a little hang out thing..watch tv but then as with all hang out things, problems arise. I explain, honestly and openly about my kids, not thinking they are obviously trying to make these people not drink so maybe not big fans of pills. I get asked alot of questions which I don’t mind, as I am always willing to educate until I get the whole, “Your kids are autistic. My wife is a teacher and she has 3 of those kids in her class that ruin everything. They shouldn’t be allowed to go to school with other kids”. I am thankful I popped a xanax before this and remind myself that in the big scheme of things, this is nothing. It is then followed with the,”Don’t you think kids are over diagnosed?
Don’t you think medication just hides their problems? Isn’t it just a way of avoiding dealing with their problems? etc” Normally, at this point, I am handing out my address saying why don’t you come over to my place, I won’t give my kids pills and you go have fun “dealing” with them! But again, I tell myself, this is just one moment. This guy has no clue, doesn’t live my life. I need to be understanding. So being the person I am and wanting to change the focus, I have to throw in, “Well you know sometimes I get such bad headaches I have to drink alcohol with my pills to make it go away. Sometimes it even takes a few drinks!”. You want to throw down about this subject? Let’s roll but DON’T EVEN THINK you have a f*&king clue about my kids cause I will bury you! Sorry. A tad hostile there. Time for another bottle. Breathe in and out…I am looking forward to next week. I can’t wait to figure out a way to manipulate my “business” and what I do into conversation. It will be fun! I have a sitter! Happy New Year fellow freaks! Love you all! XO
- Myth #5: All You Need Is A Big Dick | Not!
FYI: Just because you have a big dick doesn’t mean you can just lay there
Well it’s a new month! I’m in a new place and I’m feeling pretty optimistic. Not quite sure why..I haven’t had that much to drink yet but hey..I’m running with it. I’m totally stoked for the Ladies Who Ride Event at Cooks Corner on July 17th. Why? Because I go every year and always have a great time. Whatever happens at Cooks, stays at Cooks (or is floating around somewhere on youtube). I come up with a phrase every year to put on my ass and am currently working hard (drinking) at coming up with this years.
It raises money for Breast Cancer so it’s like charity work. LOL. Going to have some hot girls modeling my boyshorts and tanks in the fashion show. Do you know how hot that is going to be? Mostly S Factor girls so they will definitely be wearing 5 inches or more. What can I say? They feel the same as I do, size matters! It’s gonna be off the hook so everybody better be there!I want everyone to send pics of themselves wearing my shit! I’ll post them!
Photo Mayhem
Say Something Raunchy